Darshana Saikia

Have you ever seen "conjoined twins", if not in real, at least in pictures? They are joined/ attached to each other. When one sits, the other has to sit. When one stands, the other has to stand. Basically their lives literally revolves around each other. Medical science has made it possible to surgically separate them. Don't you think they are much more comfortable now? One can sit or stand irrespective of the other. This was a very basic idea which shows how attachment can be very baleful. People often confuse attachment with love. What many of us fail to understand is that- they are completely opposite. Attachment is a very strong emotional bond that you have with someone or something. Love is a direct feeling. Humans get easily attached- be it with people or cars or animals- it can be anything. Humans are self-centred. When you are attached to someone, you don't love them. You love how they make you feel. You love how they feed your needs, your attenti

Finding yourself .. this sounds cliché for us by now. We have been hearing that a lot. But have we absorbed it? We have been reading about it. Have we understood it? Why is finding ourselves so important? When did we lose ourselves in the first place? Was it when we joined the cat-race for survival? Or when we moulded ourselves according to society's norms? Or when we fell for someone and gave them complete control over our actions and behaviour? We want to "find ourselves" but also expect us to find us somewhere in somebody's heart. Why is people's perspective so important that we, unconsciously, change ourselves and sometimes our dreams too.  Are we content? Are we happy the way we are in Instagram and Facebook? I have personally come across people for whom showing themselves happy is more important than actually being happy or keeping someone else happy. Remember our dreams and aspirations when we were kids? How many of us have actually pursued them

"It's not intentions that matter. It's actions. We are what we do and say, not what we intend to" ✒️ Intention - the word carries way more depth than deemed. You may forgive a person for his many mistakes because he had a "good intention". You may leave a person in spite of all the (superficial) sweetness because he carried a "bad intention".  There's more. Some people will continue what has been hurting you hiding behind this word or will claim acceptance of unacceptable deeds just because their intentions were clean.  You need to move beyond this word. Beyond what they say.  Consider this example- you have been crying for ages and the actions of your partner has been hurting you for a long time. Your love is pure, both of you know that. Yet, the partner shows no respect towards your feelings, your tears and they repeat the same actions, claiming "my intentions were not bad".  At times, they may apologise (and repeat it a

Heartbreak , it turns out, is not just for kids. It happens to all of us at some point, and when it does, your world is blown to bits.  Don't say you have lived enough, because you have not.  You can only appreciate the good once you have faced the bad. When things break, we all tend to fix it before throwing it. But what if those pieces hurt you? There comes a time when you have to value yourself more than a person who is not even there. You cannot bait your life on someone who is too obsessed about seeing the bad more than the good, whose words have no value, who is too egoistic to sacrifice unnecessary actions for your mental peace. Sometimes we need to value emotions more than what's right what's not. The question of right or wrong remains, the person doesn't . You may love your material possessions, the worldly goods, but there will be a time when the world will stop loving you. Learn to value love  over likes . You are a fool if you disregard people who genuinely

What is love? Love, when found, is desire. A desire which forms a bond. A bond, which transits to love. Love, that is based on trust. And trust, which is greater than worship. Your trust breaks once, and you find it hard to trust them again. Before we love, we should learn to trust, be honest and be transparent. Don't say stuff you don't mean, even with a good intention, it will lead to nothing but doubt in the long run. We search for stability in a person, in life. Love is nothing if we don't find stability with him/her. A fluctuating heart repels you.  Attraction is temporary, stability is permanent. Immaturity in talks and actions gives a clear sign that he/she is not yet ready to commit. Love is sacrifice . A woman sacrifices a lot in an attempt to bring happiness in a man's life. No man can sacrifice his home to live in some other. The least a man can do is to let go of small things which hurts or causes disturbance. It might be bringing some amount of joy to them

"We must rapidly begin the shift from a thing-oriented society to a person-oriented society" ~ Martin Luther King, Jr. In today's world, it is nearly impossible to free ourselves from the clutches of materialism. Think about it- from childhood, we are inundated with the approbation of the rich and famous in television and other media. We are sent to schools? Why? To gain knowledge? Well nowadays, more than that, to be efficient enough to be able to earn money in the future. That's the first thing people are concerned about while choosing a career or a job- "What are its prospects", "Will I earn enough"? "Will I be happy", "Do I really want this" is now secondary. When picking a career, does following a passion or chasing a paycheck lead to a happier life? As said in the Bhagavat Gita , "Vihaya kaman yah  sarvan pumansh charati nihsprihah nirmamo nirahankarah sa shantim adhigachchhati" That person, who gives up all mat